I am so sad and disappointed to find out that an incident (or series of incidents) involved friends of mine. Without giving too much away, one friend of mine attended an event where there were several other friends of mine in attendance. The individual friend does not know the other friends, but they all know each other. They are, in fact, a little clique. Individual Friend lamented how le Clique made a huge display of their love for one another, but couldn't even give her the time of day. Individual Friend, a rational, educated professional, was able to analyze the group's actions and attitudes in an impersonal way, but personally, the exclusion stung, since the event was supposed to be a happy, social activity. For me, personally, I am shocked, since, one-on-one, the members of le Clique are some of the nicest, warmest, friendliest, most outgoing women I know. What is it about the group mentality that turns some women into, um, not-so-nice-people?
What's worse is that there were kids in attendance; what kind of message does that behavior send? "Oh, I love you and your child and you and your child and you and your child, but I can't even acknowledge anybody else". Nice. And no doubt, those mommies will be shocked when they hear that their children are excluding and bullying other kids at school.