Wow. My cousin unfriended me on Facebook. What the heck? We were on opposite sides during the election, but we were able to have discussions about things she posted on her wall. We usually ended up in a stalemate, but there was never any real animosity, at least on my part. I provoked her a bit, but I was trying to get her to open her mind and try to look at things from a different perspective. Or at least admit that there is a different perspective. After the election results, I saw a lot of disparaging remarks and drama on Facebook (not just from her), so I appealed to all of my FB friends to stop the whining and badmouthing and move on--and it was met with a tirade from my cousin and the aforementioned unfriending.
Cuz is a one-issue voter, and thinks that anyone who does not share her views is evil, as in really evil, in league with the devil, etc. That doesn't make any sense to me, but I know that I can't change her mind. Her opinions are based on a good heart and strong beliefs. In her tirade, she clearly expressed a lot of bitterness and hopelessness, and lumped me with the people who contribute to her unhappiness.
I am stunned. I can't even send her a message, which might be a good thing, since I am hurt, not to mention furious with her. No telling what I might say. Was I mean to try to engage her at all? Is she just crazy and ready to pop at any moment? I really never thought so, but her reaction was extreme. I am sitting here trying to decide if I need to try to contact her at all in the future. Not right away, that would only make things worse. That I am sure of. But how can you just give up on family? As I posted before, my kiddo is free to make up her own mind about politics and everything else. I can only teach her to the best of my ability and hope that she chooses wisely. One thing I can tell you, though, no matter what she chooses, I will never, ever give up on her, nor will I ever "unfriend" her.
I wouldn't make it a point to contact her. Let it happen naturally. Christmas cards, birthday messages, etc. All you can do is make yourself available for a time when she may be open to life.
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